Cheesy Weddings



Coming from the mouth of a male, Terry Tan may easily be (mis)understood as a stingy man - one who uses such excuses, in order to save $.
Coming from the mouth of a female, comments received include:
- She say only lah...actually it is simply cos no man has agreed to be the groom yet
- Aiya..when it is your turn, then say

In a way, the irony is that many females started off not wanting weddings but yet developing into mental patients of "i want the most perfect wedding - obsessive compulsive disorder". It can be seen in Sex in the City (the movie) and in real life...

Do you know of anyone who experienced such? I definitely have...
- Weddings die die must be hosted in hotels, and die die must pray that the ang baos are enough to cover the cost. In the interim, better apply credit cards from all banks as back up
- Wedding invitations come with *hints* about the cost of the dinner. The most classic case happened to my facial lady, she received an invitation card which states that all ang baos must be of minimal xx dollars!
- Brides having 2nd thoughts (more like 3rd, 4th, 5th...) prior to wedding but yet continue to aggressively work towards having the 'perfect' wedding and sending out hundreds/thousands of invitations; while privately weigh if the groom is the right man
- Due to the stress in trying to have the perfect wedding, the wedding eventually never take place.
Just take a look at online bride-forums, they are full of sales threads re-selling bridal packages and banquet bookings. If the bridal packages are as attractive as they have described, why are they still selling them at a lost? Either they are lying or the wedding is off...

Quarter-life crisis?
Are you silently asking yourself this question?

Hit is Pamper; Scold is LoveThe next time you fight with him/her, you can always tell him/her that "Dear, it is cos I want us to be together for a longer time".
Hmm....but do you prefer "many days of fighting" or "fewer but romantic lovey dovey days"? Difficult to make a decision!

Two sides to every coin
For every action, there is a reaction.
Some people prefer to say that there is a pessimistic or optimistic view to every thing.
While others simply say that opportunities are everywhere; be it bulls or bears.

However, whether you want to be so opportunistic or simply don't mind enjoying the time ticking by (at times...not all the time thou), the choice is up no-one-else but you and yourself

Parenthood
Many a times, parents complain about their live-in maids, that the maids are not able to properly bring up their children. Oh pls.... the job and responsibility lies with the parents, and not maids or teachers or dogs or cats. Pls use your brain cells (if you can find any) and realise who are to blame, if anything goes wrong.

When we bring life to a child, we need to ensure that we nurture him/her to be an independent thinking adult. We need to set some boundaries where there should be; and yet provide the necessary freedom for him/her to grow, be self-accountable and learn from his/her own actions. It is this "freedom" that I am not ready yet. I refuse to be a parent who answer to the child's questions by saying "when you are older, you will know lah". Oh pls, if "when you are older, you will know lah", then now that I am "older", why don't I know what 4D number to buy?

Getting Married vs Having a wedding
What is meant by getting married and what is meant by having a wedding? When you think about getting married, do you visualize a grand/white wedding?

Wedding, to me, is but a celebration event. In fact, (being the nerding old me) per dictionary definition, wedding is indeed a celebration ! How often do we hear about people delaying marriage because they cannot afford a wedding? Oh please... if you are so happy getting married to your "darling", do you still need to spend all the effort and money to have a wedding? Getting married to "the one" - this action itself- is enough bliss and happiness on it's own.

In fact, marriage (based on laws of Singapore) is but a piece of paper which confirms that both parties are of different sex (same sex marriage is not legal here..), knows how to hold a pen and have a identification card/passport. And of course, it does serve many functions such as to claim for dependent's benefits for your spouse, from your employer (ha!)

"Growing old together" is what the 3 words are i.e. "growing old together". See... no 'marriage certification' is mentioned!

What is needed is our own brain cells telling us that we made this decision to be together; and not a piece of paper. To be pessimistic, locked with a marriage certification, polygamy continues.

Many people seems to have dreams of a 'wonderful' wedding; (i want to repeat this again) my dream is "NOT to have a wedding"

Live to Work .... or Work to Live?

Sumiko mentioned that 2nd week into her leave, she started to miss her colleagues and dressing up each morning to set off for work, and missed her cubicle life.

A familiar repetitive routine does give me comfort, however, I didn't/don't think that such a routine is restricted to working. We can always set up routines to (part of) our lives if we want to, example: go marketing on alternate mornings, go exercise, go visit old folks' homes, go take up a course etc Hey, if want to, can even set the alarm clock and wake up every day to make breakfast.

Many a times I agree with her grumbling; sometimes I don't. But hey, that's the fun part - to have diversity and to hear/see how different people can react differently to the same situation.

We don't need others to agree with all our opinions; what's important is that we do think and have opinions of own own. What is sad is not that we have a bad opinion but if we do not have an opinion...